Comments on: The Ache Inside http://meredithefken.com/blog/2006/08/06/international-adoption/the-ache-inside/ Stories of extraordinary every-day women, stay-at-home moms (SAHMs), and adoptive parents. Thu, 28 Aug 2008 00:47:30 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.5.1 By: Christina http://meredithefken.com/blog/2006/08/06/international-adoption/the-ache-inside/#comment-151 Christina Thu, 10 Aug 2006 02:51:44 +0000 http://meredithefken.com/blog/2006/08/06/international-adoption/the-ache-inside/#comment-151 I wouldn't take it to heart. All kids say things that hurt others without knowing it. Sometimes it is just manipulative. My friend was asking me the other day why her kid says "your not my mom," when she is mad. She is adopted. I said my kids say this, so I think it is just something they say in a fit of anger, adopted or not. I think many years from now all the love you are giving will pay off and it will seem these things are worlds away. I wouldn’t take it to heart. All kids say things that hurt others without knowing it. Sometimes it is just manipulative. My friend was asking me the other day why her kid says “your not my mom,” when she is mad. She is adopted. I said my kids say this, so I think it is just something they say in a fit of anger, adopted or not. I think many years from now all the love you are giving will pay off and it will seem these things are worlds away.

]]> By: Meredith Efken http://meredithefken.com/blog/2006/08/06/international-adoption/the-ache-inside/#comment-142 Meredith Efken Mon, 07 Aug 2006 04:10:25 +0000 http://meredithefken.com/blog/2006/08/06/international-adoption/the-ache-inside/#comment-142 Cythia, thank you. It's nice to have people to share with. :) Jamie, I'm glad you haven't had to face that question yet. And I agree--we'd love to do it again if we could. We're trying to work toward it, actually. Sometimes, I think we must be crazy for that, but that's just the way it is. :) Cythia, thank you. It’s nice to have people to share with. :)

Jamie, I’m glad you haven’t had to face that question yet. And I agree–we’d love to do it again if we could. We’re trying to work toward it, actually. Sometimes, I think we must be crazy for that, but that’s just the way it is. :)

]]> By: Jamie http://meredithefken.com/blog/2006/08/06/international-adoption/the-ache-inside/#comment-141 Jamie Mon, 07 Aug 2006 03:37:09 +0000 http://meredithefken.com/blog/2006/08/06/international-adoption/the-ache-inside/#comment-141 Oh, the blessing that I have not had to answer that question yet in 6 years! Why can't I birth a brown baby with black hair, yes. Why he didn't grow in my tummy, yes. Not why she didn't want him. Thank you, God. And yet I would stand in line to do it again if I could just get my stuff in order! Oh, the blessing that I have not had to answer that question yet in 6 years! Why can’t I birth a brown baby with black hair, yes. Why he didn’t grow in my tummy, yes. Not why she didn’t want him. Thank you, God.

And yet I would stand in line to do it again if I could just get my stuff in order!

]]> By: Cynthia http://meredithefken.com/blog/2006/08/06/international-adoption/the-ache-inside/#comment-140 Cynthia Mon, 07 Aug 2006 02:52:38 +0000 http://meredithefken.com/blog/2006/08/06/international-adoption/the-ache-inside/#comment-140 This made me cry with you. Thank you for sharing. This made me cry with you. Thank you for sharing.

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